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Fourth , instead of interacting with my husband trying to get something from him that I wanted , I started focusing on how I could build up our relationship with my interactions with him .
Fifth , I started conversations with him to understand the different ways that he felt connected , since they were different from mine . And in those conversations , I explained that “ talking ” was a big way for me , but I was also working on cultivating other ways , so that I felt connected more often .
Naturally , Paul started to react to me differently because I was showing up differently . I wasn ’ t pretending to show up differently , I was truly shifting from my shift in perspective and using Skill Sets to build up our relationship instead of breaking it down .
Through the changes I was making , I felt more connected to Paul than I even did when we were first dating .
I didn ’ t have to become someone who talked less , and Paul didn ’ t have to become someone who talked more . One of us was not right and the other one was not wrong .
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