Aspire Magazine: Inspiration for a Woman's Soul.(TM) Aug/Sept 2017 Aspire Mag Full Issue | Page 47

What does showing up in your life mean? For me, it means expressing your true inner self. It means actively bringing joy to your life. It means taking care of your needs. It also means being awake and noticing aligned opportunities as they arise, both big and small. For example, an ombré pink drink appeared on my screen one afternoon as I launched a well-known coffee shop’s app on my phone. Instead of ignoring it, I immediately thought, “I must have this.” And I’ve gone back multiple times for more. Generally I’m following one train of thought, such as “What’s the next task on my to-do list?” Then I shift gears and open up to a new opportunity that presents itself... if it’s enticing and intriguing. And even if it’s in Your life is happening now. Follow the joy and show up for the moments you have. the form of a drink that looks like Pepto Bismol on ice. Following those moments of joy and letting them lead you requires being awake and present to what lights you up. Those moments are like breadcrumbs that guide you to your heart’s desires. For me, psychology and sociology served as breadcrumbs. I’ve always had a passion for studying human and group behavior. After my job ended without warning, my passion led to a culture change position at a company in downtown San Francisco. Ultimately, that led to my current career as a transformational coach. And after the unexpected end of my relationship, my love of being outdoors led to meeting the man I’m now married to. Instead of dragging myself down with thoughts of despair and what I “should” do to find a man or a job, I let my curiosity and interests guide me. While I did take the necessary steps to search for a job, and I examined how I could be a better partner, I still gave myself permission to fulfill my needs, no matter how insignificant or impractical they might have seemed. My passions and interests may not save the world or cure cancer or get rid of all the dust bunnies in my house. Fearful, self- defeating thoughts of what I “should” pay attention to serve as reminders of all the big things that really need to be done each day. But dwelling on them is a surefire way to sleepwalk through life. Your life is happening now. Follow the joy and show up for the moments you have. How do you show up? It’s certainly easier to show up for “normal” moments, such as going to an office every 47 the setback variety. In one case, my relationship of two years ended abruptly. In another case, I was suddenly dismissed from my job. In both cases, I felt like I was punished for a crime I didn’t know I committed. I eventually realized these setbacks were invitations to show up in my life.